Secret Sauce Angel

I’d be lying if I said being in a space surrounded by men with my hands tied behind my back wasn’t scary at first. My brain scanned for cues of safety and danger for a long time. Analysed the way they talked to me. The way they handled my body. How they teased and challenged me, while respecting the boundaries and limits I voiced.

Nothing was taken. Everything was given.

In trust and safety, I surrendered to myself. I was held, challenged, and carried through the journey we co-created with so much care, joy and respect. Tied to sit so low, I was flying so high...

People who are curious but yet afraid to explore their desires often ask: If I let go, what if I lose myself?

If you learn what holding yourself feels like and explore step by step, with the right people, you don’t lose yourself. You find more of yourself.

Thank you David Marius YOURKNOTS | Ritual Rope Performance for being the right people for this ecstatic exploration 🪢

Thank you Felix Velarde for capturing these moments so beautifully ✨

❤️‍🔥 My angel explorers and dreamers,
When did someone last give you something intimate without taking anything back?

The beauty of spicy stories is that they don’t stay on the page. They come back as sparks of excited aliveness, later…

While you’re making tea.
While you’re getting dressed.
Commuting.
Or supposedly thinking about something productive, or sensible.

I love that… The freedom to read something simply because it turns you on. To enjoy being rrrotic not for anyone else, but for yourself. To let your imagination have somewhere exciting and daring to go.

Pleasure can begin with nothing more dramatic than a book and the willingness to enjoy what happens in your head.

Come read this one with me ❤️‍🔥

The link to Ava’s Switch is in my stories and highlights.

When a couple says they want sx a different amount, they often arrive with a number they’re trying to agree on. How often would be reasonable? Once a week? Twice? Somewhere in the middle?

But the more interesting difference isn’t how much each of them wants. It’s what each of them counts as worth wanting.

One partner might be quite happy to have sx that’s just fine. The contact is part of the point. Fine still feels worth having.

For the other, eventually, fine may stop being a good enough reason to get undressed.

That can look like lower desire. But what if, sometimes, it’s a need to raise the bar?

Low desire has many possible roots — pain, medication, hormones, exhaustion, stress, unresolved resentment, things that happened long before this relationship. All of them deserve proper attention.

But sometimes the sx has stopped being compelling enough. It’s something predictable, neither of them quite knows how to make it better, and eventually one person becomes “the low-desire one”.

The trouble with the label is that it can shut down the question just as it gets interesting. Because the person who wants less of this may be capable of wanting considerably more of something else. More play. More anticipation. More surrender. More time. More variety. More transformation. Something neither of them has language for yet.

So the goal isn’t to help couples match their numbers. It is to find out what much better intimacy would actually mean for each of them — not a compromise in the middle, but something each of them would really enjoy.

Before you negotiate how often, ask a different question:
What would your partner say yes to instantly?

We did it ✨ Pleasure expansion session has been filmed 🎥

International Labour Days used to be all about time off and BBQs. This time we were wired on excitement, full moon energy, and a sugar rush — and finished at 3am ⚡️

Your on-demand pleasure session is coming soon…
once we’ve slept a bit and edited it to our liking 🥰