Coach Injie Alawamie

The love that you see in the tiger’s eyes…

By Coach Injie Alawamie
Journey of Awareness Community

One of the ideas that stayed with me from Yann Martel’s Life of Pi book was:

Sometimes, what we think we see in another being’s eyes may actually be a reflection of what exists within us.

Pi felt deeply connected to Richard Parker, the Bengal tiger with whom he shared his extraordinary journey. But his father had once tried to teach him an important lesson: a tiger is still a tiger, no matter how much human emotion we believe we can see in its eyes.

That idea has stayed with me because I think we do something very similar in human relationships.

We often see people through the lens of who we are.

If you are kind, you may naturally assume kindness in others.

If you are loyal, you may expect loyalty.

If you love deeply, you may interpret someone’s attention, words, or occasional tenderness as evidence that they love with the same depth.

If hurting someone you love would be unthinkable to you, you may struggle to understand how someone who claims to love you can repeatedly hurt you.

And so, we explain.

We justify.

We search for reasons.

We remember their good moments and use them to excuse the painful ones.

We give another chance.

And sometimes another.

Not necessarily because the other person has shown us enough to deserve those chances, but because we are looking at them through the reflection of our own heart.

And this is where awareness becomes important.

Your heart is not evidence of someone else’s heart.

Your loyalty does not guarantee theirs.

Your empathy does not mean they experience empathy in the same way.

Your honesty does not guarantee their honesty.

And your capacity to love someone deeply does not automatically mean they have the same capacity or willingness to love you in the way you need.

But there is another side to this lesson, and I think it is the more hopeful one.

Awareness should not turn us into suspicious, cynical people.

The lesson is not:

Stop trusting. Stop loving. Stop seeing the good in people.

The lesson is to learn to see people as they actually are, rather than only as we hope they are.

Keep your heart open, but keep your eyes open too.

Listen to words, but observe patterns.

Appreciate apologies, but notice what happens after them.

Believe promises when they are consistently followed by actions.

Give people space to be imperfect because we all are but learn the difference between human imperfection and a repeated pattern that continues to hurt you.

And perhaps one of the hardest realisations in any relationship is discovering that some of the beauty you kept seeing in another person was actually your own beauty reflected back at you.

The compassion was yours.

The loyalty was yours.

The hope was yours.

The willingness to understand was yours.

The love you kept pouring into the relationship was yours.

At first, that realisation can feel heartbreaking.

But look at it differently.

If those beautiful qualities came from within you, then you did not lose them when the relationship changed or ended.

They are still yours.

Your capacity to love is still yours.

Your kindness is still yours.

Your loyalty is still yours.

Your ability to hope, forgive, rebuild, and begin again is still yours.

You simply become wiser about where you place them.

Perhaps this is what emotional maturity really looks like.

Not loving less.

Not becoming colder.

Not building walls around your heart.

But learning to love with an open heart and open eyes.

You can be compassionate and still have boundaries.

You can forgive someone without giving them unlimited access to your life.

You can understand someone’s wounds without allowing those wounds to become an excuse for them to keep wounding you.

And you can love someone while accepting that love alone does not make every relationship healthy.

Sometimes, the moment we stop searching for our own reflection in someone else’s eyes is the moment we finally begin to see them clearly.

And perhaps, for the first time…

we begin to see ourselves clearly too.

Coach Injie Alawamie
Journey of Awareness Community

One thing has always fascinated me.

In Arabic, we don’t usually say, “I cried my eyes out all night.” We often express it differently, with imagery.

We say:

“It amazes me that although human beings were created from soil, they don’t bloom after a whole night of crying.”

I’ve always loved this metaphor.

Soil, water, and the hope that something beautiful will grow…

Sometimes our tears don’t make us bloom overnight. They simply soften the ground within us, preparing us for growth that we cannot yet see.

Perhaps healing isn’t the flower.
Perhaps it’s the quiet transformation happening beneath the surface.

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Coach Injie Alawamie

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