On That Thought

A quote I came across on Pinterest.

No Apologies, Just Evolution

This year wasn’t the worst of my life, but it definitely makes the top five. It’s been a year of intense lessons about human nature and, most importantly, about myself.

I’ve learned that people make mistakes. None of us are perfect. The only perfect man to have ever lived is Jesus, and no one else comes close to His perfection. This understanding has taught me to manage my expectations of others. I’ve come to realize that relying on people often leads to disappointment. Friends have let me down, loved ones have let me down, and that’s just part of life I guess. It doesn’t mean they are bad people. It just means they are human. And I am learning to accept that. I’m also trying to heal and forgive, not just others, but myself too. Through a lot of self-reflection and personal growth, I’m finally beginning to reconnect with myself. I am maybe 50% of the person I used to be, and that’s progress. Isn't it?

When I was younger, I was unstoppable. Some might say I was overly confident, even arrogant. But I got things done. Anything I set my mind to, I achieved with God’s grace and guidance. I was so aligned with Him that it felt like we were conquering life’s challenges together seamlessly.

Of course, life is a journey of learning. I’m still learning, and I’m grateful for that even though it can be painful at times.

This year, I came to a powerful realization. I’ve spent so much time trying to fit in, but not everyone is meant to understand or accept me. And that’s okay. I’m like a Rolls Royce or a vintage bottle of wine, not for everyone, and that’s what makes me special. The select few in my life are enough, and I treasure them. In fact, I’m stepping back into the mindset I had in 2016 or 2017. As Drake would say, no new friends. Many people have told me I have changed, and they are absolutely right. I have changed.

Submission

All my life i have been led to believe that submission is a form or losing power and losing control. To become one’s slave to put it harshly is what I thought it was. Only to come to realize that I have been completely wrong!

When we ask God for a new job, a new car, a new house and leave it in his hands, that is us submitting/yielding to His will. We are letting Him make the decisions for our lives.

Now God had also placed leaders, governors, chiefs, kings and many more in position of leadership or in this instance power but why do we not yield to them.

In 1 Peter 2:13 it states as follows -
“Submit yourselves for the Lord’s sake to every human authority: whether to the emperor, as the supreme authority,”

So this passage states that we should submit/yield to authority. You, just like me feel like this is not something you would do but you actually practice it everyday.

Why do you submit/yield to your boss?
Why do you submit/yield to the police?
Why do you submit/yield to a judge?

Because these people have been given authority.

Here is what I realized submitting makes me feel:

- It gives peace.
- I am relieved that I do not need to control every little thing, which gets so exhausting.
- I have confidence that the right thing should and will be done.

‭Biblical submission, when viewed through the lens of trust and love, creates a powerful sense of well-being, anchoring you in God’s unchanging and unfailing promises.

Yes, one can argue all the points I have mentioned above but this is my realization and not yours! Lol

Let me know if my take on things interest you and I will share more.

When You're Tired of Doing All the Work in Friendship!

Friendship is one of those relationships that should be easy, right? But sometimes, it can feel like you’re the only one putting in the effort. You are always the one texting first, sharing updates about your life, suggesting hangouts, or just checking in. And if you don’t do it, you wonder if the friendship will just fade away.

I’ve found myself in that place before. It feels like if I don’t take the initiative, we can go months without talking. And while I get that friendships don’t need constant contact, a simple "how are you?" now and then would be nice.

That’s when I decided: I’m going to meet you where you meet me. If I don’t hear from you, I won’t always be the one reaching out. It’s not about playing games or keeping score it is about balance.

Friendship, like any relationship, requires effort from both sides. It shouldn’t fall on just one person to keep things going. When both people care and make an effort, the bond grows stronger. But if one person is doing all the work, it can start to feel one-sided.

At the end of the day, friendship should feel good. It shouldn’t be draining. If you feel like you’re always the one making the effort, it’s okay to step back and see if the other person steps up. True friendship is about both people putting in the time and energy to keep the connection alive. So, let’s remember: friendship is a two-way street.

Grief, My New Friend.

Grief is such a strange thing. One moment, you're happy and minding your business, and the next, something as simple as driving past the place where your mum took her last breath hits you like a ton of bricks, an avalanche, or a landslide. You get what I mean. The funny thing is, I drive by this place every day, but today, it feels absolutely gut-wrenching.

You never really heal from losing a loved one. I don’t think you move on. You don’t “get over it.” You just live. That’s it, you live.
It’s in these small reminder moments that I realize how much I miss about her.
I miss the hour-long conversations, where even MTC would cut us off, and one of us would immediately call back to continue.
I miss her laugh. Damn, it was so contagious. Sometimes, you didn’t even know why she was laughing or it wasn’t always funny but you’d still find yourself laughing with her.
I miss her teasing me and my brother because, let’s face it, we’re both clowns/idiots.
I miss her cooking. She used to say, “She can fry,” and trust me, her dishes smelled and tasted amazing.
I even miss when she got angry and would say, “Nonsense!”

Honestly, I could go on forever, and the list would never end.

This time of year makes me miss her even more. With all the Christmas lights and festive spirit around, I can’t help but realize that home was her. And now, I can’t go home. 😔
I guess this, too, shall pass. Until next time, Grief, my new friend.

For my first On That Thought post, this is pretty heavy. But I promised to keep it real, and this is what’s on my heart today.

See you in the next one. 🌻

I’m Maggy! So I guess I’m officially a blogger … again. I used to have a blog eons ago, back when I was on my natural hair journey, trying to reach waist-length hair (spoiler: I cut it all off this year 🙈). Then, I started writing about whatever else was on my mind, and now here we are.

I’m not trying to box this page into any one thing right now, it is just a place for me to share my thoughts, whatever they may be, and hopefully start a little discussion with you all. It feels so good to be into the things I used to love again.

No schedules or pressure here! I will post when I feel like it. This should never be something that stresses me out. This is just me, my thoughts, and whoever wants to read them. So yeah, first post done!

Can’t wait to share more soon.