Talk with Vicky

I have lived in fear for 3 years
Here is my story

I lost my second son in 2023. It was just 3 days left for him to clock 9months
Since his death anytime I give birth I get so scared, to me, I wasn’t certain if the baby would get to 9months. Fear, uncertainty, depression all at once.
I had my first daughter in 2023 after the death of my son. It was like a consolation the months got by,my fear became worse. When she clocked 9months I weeped that morning, it felt like i just won a million dollar ticket
The death of my son took everything from me
My mental health became a mess. Every time I think of him all I do is weep
Fast forward to 2025 God gave me another boy. Never seen a baby as cute as mine.
The fear set in again. Everyday I look at my son, I become so scared for loosing him.
Someone said “ I killed my son” according to him, it was said out of anger, he didnt mean it. What he didn’t know was he added to my pain. It became more difficult to sleep, more difficult to forget. I started questioning myself how. I started thinking if by chnace it was true i killed my son. I blamed myself even when i knew i would give my life a million times over just to have my baby back. which mother would kill her own child a child born through CS, the pain, the scar that never goes away, the pain of watching life leave ur son right before ur eyes. I still see him on that bed i remembr everything just like yesterday
Every time i go to that same hospital for my other kids i never look in the direction of that room where he was laid even till now.
Today my baby is 9months and I am grateful. We won.
I know I might never heal from the shock, the pain, and the thought of my late son but, I take solace in the fact that I have come this far cos God still has plans for me
Nothing prepares u for this type of pain
Nothing feels the same after the loss of a child
I am too young for the pain i carry inside
So when u see a mother who has just lost a child pls be kind with ur words we are fighting battles we can’t even explain
For the first timin 3 years i would say this
Rest in Peace Phronesis Chigozirim E
I love u even in death
Keep watching over mummy n ur siblings

And Now

Happy 9months my baby.
Thank u for coming at a time like this.
Someday I would tell u a story of how we overcame but until then, know that mummy loves u more than life itself

My husband and his family have a WhatsApp group. He never let me use his phone because of the WhatsApp group group. Few days ago he was sick so he unlocked his phone and gave me to reply a chat with his client. Before I finished replying the chat, he was deeply asleep. I went through the his family WhatsApp and found out he's HIV positive, he told his family, he said in case anything happens to him they should not let me have his properties. He said his last sister should take over his printing business and his brother should make sure I evacuate the house we are living in, to his house in the village. That he doesn't want me to shine with his properties.

His mom said he will not kpai, he said , he's just saying and he's on medication but he's just saying in case of anything. He said they should make sure his children goes to school if I f{ght for the custody of his children they should leave them for me. But if I don't they should get his children from me. When he wanted to give me the phone he told me to type fast and keep his phone but I wanted to delay so that I can go through his family WhatsApp , I never expected what I saw , I wasn't interested in reading side chicks messages but I wanted to see what his family chats is all about. But he fell asleep while I was typing.

The next day I went for HIV test and I'm negative, I am scheduled to repeat the test. He never said anything about hib to me. I told him it's malaria that is making him weak he said he knows , he refused to take the medication I bought. Let me take him to the hospital he refused. His brother told him he should trust him on doing everything he said , his last sister said in case of such he shouldn't have any worried they will take care of his children and make sure they get the kids from me. I haven't done these people any wrong. We don't have any problem since I got married, they visit I give them food and drinks and they go back ,some times money for transportation back home. Sometimes huge money for business support which I always tell my husband to give. Even his mom's house that needed solar I was the one who told hubby to fix solar for her since she was always complaining of no light.

At this point I don't know if I should ask him anything or wait till I repeat my next test. I haven't ask him anything. I don't know what to do. What did I do to them?

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The bible didn’t record anywhere women were told to love their husbands
We were asked to be submissive n respect them
Man was commanded to love their wife as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it.
We changed the narratives
We chose to love where we were asked to respect and be submissive that’s y a lot of women are in pain
And u can’t demand for submission if u haven’t loved.
U have to love her and then respect comes naturally.
They say a married women is a deity and so she shouldn’t sleep around etc
But them Dey beat deity
They cheat on deity
Carry infection give deity
Kpa! deity
I no wan be this type of deity o abeg
Happy Father’s Day to all the amazing father’s out here

We want a system that works
A system we can rely on
A system we can be proud of
How can innocent children be kidnapped and nothing is done about it.
We don’t know if they are alive of dead
I am pained
Children who can’t even run for their lives even if they are given the opportunity to
God help us

A little talk on this flower
I really don’t know it’s name but it’s perfect for jedijedi on new born.
How to use it,
Get some portion of the leave,
rinse with water
boil till the water changes its color
Use it to bath ur baby

I hope this helps someone

As a parent if ur child fails academically it’s on u

There is no child born with a supernatural brain
U help ur child to excel in academically
Some parents do not check their kids books and do not make out time to teach them yet u expect them to b smart
Note that my son’s teacher is the best teacher my son has had, she’s understanding, takes corrections and loves her kids
So some weeks ago my son came home with his home work quantitative reasoning we did it together and he took it to Sch the next day
When I went to pick him he was frowning and I asked him what the problem was, he said he failed the homework he got 1/20, I asked if it was the same I taught him the previous day and he said yes.
I saw the disappointment in his eyes and I knew it would take extra grace for him to blv what ever I teach him after now so I asked him to bring out the book luckily the same quantitative was given to him and we were still in the school premises
When he brought the book out I looked at it and couldn’t understand what I failed so I asked for the teacher
She came and I asked her to show me what I didn’t do right, When she explained I told her it’s wrong and that she should pls go back and look at the home work and give my son the right score cos if not he would never listen to me if I teach him again
She said she would look at it tomorrow and I refused, I told her I would wait for her to cross check it I don’t care how many hours it would take
She went in, properly looked at it and gave him the 20/20 my son smiled and I saw the trust restored I picked his bag and we bounced home
I felt like a proud mother
Of course I am
No one is perfect pls teachers make mistakes too, check ur kids book and help them