Maggie

Am I overreacting?
Okay so long story short I went thru some of my boyfriends likes on TikTok and here’s just some of the videos I found. I told my brother about it and he said i was over reacting and when I confronted my boyfriend about it, he said it was just funny but I don’t know. I don’t really see it that way when I sit at home with our baby while he’s at the bar all the time already overthinking and see that.

AIO about my boyfriend's post
I feel bitter about my boyfriend posting this on TikTok where I can see it. We aren't currently having any issues, so he posted this about his ex wife who he is in the divorce process with. I know he has been with her for a long time, so I am trying to give him some grace. But we have plans to move in together. I want to discuss it with him, but wonder if I am just being petty. Am I overreacting by feeling hurt about this?

AIO that my boyfriend partied until 5 am?
For context: I’m (28F) hitting a year sober next week from alcohol, which is kind of huge to me. It’s been a hard year and I’ve almost picked up a drink a few times, but overall been trying my best to spend the rest of my life never having a drink again.

My partner (31M) is away on a work trip and it’s mainly been a social function. They had an event last night after work he told me he was going to and would be back at the hotel around midnight. I checked in on his location (something we do when travelling separate) and he was still at the bar/restaurant until 2 am. That place closed so he went to another bar and was out until around 5 am. I texted him around 2 am and he told me his coworker got s*xually harassed and he was tasked with looking out for her and was gonna head to the hotel soon, but stayed for like 3 hours. The screenshots are from while he was out and we called when he got to the hotel.

This has become a pattern lately where when I’m away or he’s away, he goes out to work parties (Christmas, this, etc) and gets absolutely plastered to the point he can’t remember most of the night. I spent the last few years before getting sober partying (clubs a few times, bars pretty much weekly) so maybe I’m a hypocrite but I feel like 31 and at work events is way too old to be partying like you’re 22.

Here’s where I may have overreacted:

I said that no one who was s*xually harassed would continue to party (I can recognise I shouldn’t have said this, I was just upset at the time) and he needs to stop lying. Then said I was done because he’s disrupting my sobriety and told him to go do whatever he wants with partying and drinking before completely blocking him. I feel like I should’ve slept on it and heard him out in the morning when he wasn’t completely drunk, but I don’t know..

AIO for feeling uneasy and pulling back emotionally after several trust-related situations in my long-distance relationship?

Hi everyone. I don’t usually post, but I’m genuinely unsure whether my reaction here is reasonable or if I’m letting anxiety get the best of me.

I’m a 25M in a long-distance relationship with my partner (32F). We met in 2024, and due to personal circumstances, we’ve spent periods apart.

About a month ago, I needed to use her phone and saw messages where she was planning to meet someone at a “bar” / “pit.” This caught me off guard because she has previously told me she doesn’t like bars and doesn’t interact with people online. She also told me the person was a woman. Later, when I looked up the number, it appeared to belong to a man. She said she wasn’t aware of that.

Around the same time, she asked if I’d be okay with her going to dinner with a male international coworker who was visiting for work. I told her I wasn’t comfortable with it. The next day, even though she usually works remotely and didn’t need to go to the office, she went in and messaged him asking where he was. After that, I noticed myself becoming more emotionally guarded.

More recently, she went to the office and we agreed to meet for lunch afterward. While we were there, I noticed she took a n**e photo of herself in the bathroom. Later, when we got home, I saw that the photo had been deleted. I didn’t confront her, but given everything else, this added to my unease.

There’s also past context that may be affecting my reaction. In summer 2024, there were several occasions where she would be unresponsive for long periods without explanation. Later, she said she had been at an ex-coworker’s house or had already been attending an event with him. On one occasion, I also found out afterward that she had done laundry at his place. She told me he was married and gay, but these situations happened multiple times and weren’t communicated beforehand, which made me uncomfortable.

I haven’t accused her of anything, but I’ve found myself feeling confused, anxious, and less trusting, and I’ve started pulling back emotionally as a result. I’m trying to understand whether my reaction — feeling uneasy and reassessing trust — is reasonable, or if I’m overreacting due to my own insecurities.

AIO?

AIO for calling my friend out on her birthday?For context: Last year we had a really bad fight going on for reasons I can't even remember. She has BPD and I've been trying really hard to accept it and also deal with it when she lashes out like this.

When it was my birthday, a few months after my grandma passed, she didn't put her things aside to reach out to me on email (where we always do, because she blocks me everywhere). It really stung not getting a birthday message from her and I tried to move on from it and not let it affect our friendship.

Today is her birthday, and usually I send an email at 9 am my time, but midnight at exactly 0:00 for her. Yesterday I asked her if she wants to do something tomorrow (now today) so I can clear my schedule and hang out with her on her birthday. She said she has a full work day and will be spending time with her mom afterwards. That this year, she doesn't care much for her birthday.

I had a really bad day last night and long week, so I didn't find it in time to make the meme video I always do for her birthday. But I made her art and was gonna send it to her today when I'm more lucid and in a better mood. Then I wake up to her: "no birthday email?" message and something in me really felt bad.

I figured a healthy friendship is one with open communication, so I sent her that message. Which I think is fair to call out the imbalance between us. And of course I come back to find out she cussed me out for it. Maybe I should've waited when it wasn't her birthday, but I dont wanna hide things from people. It always seems like a "bad time" and that "she's going through things" whenever I speak up. I'm also autistic, so I prefer to get things out there as fast as possible, instead of simmering with resentment.

She just started a new job and her cat is slowly dying, but even when I was by my grandma's deathbed, I put up with her antics and need to have some expectations met. And it's kind of tiring having to always walk over eggshells when is the "right" time.

AIO kicked her out for finding out she’s a le***an.
I found out my ex is a le***an after trying to reconnect with her over a 2 month break up.

To give more context she is also an alcoholic who constantly gets drunk with two other females and occasionally does blow. Now that being said I left her the first time because I started talking and dating an older woman who treated me with respect and was very supportive and caring for me.

So quickly I found myself realizing my ex who btw is beautiful and full of youth was just a narcissist abuser.

After me and said woman engaged in relationship like behavior. She came back and I gave in, tried the relationship again and well I saw the same behavior from her again. Then I found out she’s been messing with the two weman she gets drunk with and having s*x with them.

When confronted she became disrespectful rude and name calling.

She went as far as threatening my mother, calling my sister and saying nasty things to them.

Now this email at 4am.

My reaction. I called the cops.

She shows up at my home and gets loud, yelling and banging on windows and doors for me to open the door and my land lady has issued me multiple orders to keep quiet because of her.

Am I exaggerating for calling the cops?

I just hope she finds someone and doesn’t come back here.

AIO: Awarded a Turd
Let me set the stage:

I have a B2B sales position. Stress comes with the territory, but my workload is substantially greater than my peers and has increased exponentially in the last few years. Overwhelmed is an understatement.

I recently had a breakdown and was diagnosed with a debilitating chronic stress disorder, and obviously depression is part of it. I'm taking meds just to make it through the day. I'm otherwise very healthy, sober many years, and my stress disappeared after a 2 week vacation. My point: it's the job. And my boss knows I'm struggling.

There have been some efforts to help me out, but I've been complaining about this for years.

I am also one of the very top performers in the company. I've been there 20 years, 10 of those years in sales. I have exceeded quota every year, including a 157% performance last year. Another salesman caught a whale, good for him! I was happy for him.

Last night at our awards ceremony, my boss presented me with a cardboard turd. Keep in mind that I just had a phenomenal year despite incredible odds, and that marked 10 straight years of excellence. I make this company millions and millions of dollars. I wasn't expecting an award because I was in second place, but I sure as hell wasn't expecting a turd.

It was honestly one of the most humiliating moments of my life. I was so hurt and demoralized. It's definitely the rock bottom of my professional career.

There was no context, no inside joke, nothing. I was given a fu***ng TURD for working harder than I've ever worked in my life.

Apparently it was a joke, but I didn't think it was funny at all.

Am I overreacting?

AIO I don’t know if my mom has relapsed
Long post sorry! I (F,25) My mother (60) has been a drug since she was a teenager. She’s been clean many times and goes right back. The past 6 months or so she’s been clean.. from my knowledge outside of w**d. She was never consistent in my life and never was really able to buy me much always buying other things, all of us ended up with family members. Fast forward to currently, I am 25 and getting my masters. With the load of class and internship I can only work part time, while I live with my brother and he pays the bills I have to cover the internet as well as my own personal bills. In the past couple of months since about november, she has helped me with food sometimes and 100 dollars maybe 3 times. Recently her funding for her sober house has ended and so we’ve been trying to apply and get things together so she can move. She’s always been consistent with her calls and sometimes will blow me up. Last week, I called her all day over 20 times, she ignored my calls, sent me to voicemail turned off her phone and read my messages which is really odd for her. She never called me back that day, the next day I call. She answers for 5 seconds says she getting out of a uber and has to call me back. never does, the next day a similar excuse. Since then i’ve called and she has not really responded mostly over text if she does. On monday, she said she needed to talk to me and to come to her hotel she was staying at, unfortunately I had school work and it was late so I told her I could only talk on the phone. She did not want to do that. Since then we have not talked until today. She randomly texts me and says she needs 30 dollars (text inserted). The 30 is not the problem, my problem is i’m not sending you money and it’s used on drugs. She works and also gets SSI which she should have received last if not this week, 1000…. when I asked she says she gave 750 to her friend to hold for the apartment just in case they call back and say they need the deposit. Trust me I am thankful for her help and maybe I am overreacting. It’s my birthday this weekend and I really want to make sure I have everything I need. I am feeling very triggered and confused but also scared I am being selfish. I offered to bring her the things she needs instead of the money and she declined. Sorry for the grammar and long post but yes AIO.

AIO - Pregnant and feel abandoned by husband
Am I overreacting? I am 35 weeks pregnant and my son (21 months) and I caught a stomach virus this week (throwing up and diarrhea). I am fatigued from not being able to eat, I am anemic, and I am extremely exhausted from pregnancy… and have been taking care of my son while my husband works from home.

My husband sleep in two different bedrooms (he snores and I am a light sleeper). I also co-sleep with my son since lifting him in and out of the crib all night is too difficult with my belly (he has never slept through the night and I have some placenta complications so I am not supposed to be lifting him). My husband said he would start taking my son at night so that my son can become more comfortable with the crib, so that we can start preparing for when the new baby arrives… which I will 100% be on my own for night feedings since I am breastfeeding. However, he always has an excuse on why he can’t take him at night (he’s too tired, he got bad sleep last night, he doesn’t want to get sick and I’m already sick, etc). I am to the point of my pregnancy where it is very difficult to get comfortable at night (really bad heartburn, round ligament pain, hip pain, back pain) but I am still expected to do it. Last night I had to get up 3 times to change my toddlers diarrhea diaper and 4 times to give him Pedialyte. Between that I couldn’t sleep due to my own discomforts of pregnancy. My neck is now extremely stiff from the rough night so I sent him this text and this was his response….

I said nothing in response but bawled my eyes out privately. I am told I’m “too emotional” when I’m pregnant. Am I just being emotional/dramatic? Or am I really alone? Are all men this way, or is it just my man?

AIO To This Hot Take From a New Partner?
Started talking to someone about six weeks ago….I was talking to him about a friend of mine and we got into the topic of the purpose of a woman’s ge****ls. You can see the screen shots here, so….am I overreacting in being suuuuper offended that this man thinks he knows more about a woman’s experience than me, an actual woman? I feel like this whole conversation is just him telling me that my experience is wrong and most women have s*x to procreate because how could they not want to since s*x feels so amazing? Also, the only purpose of women’s ge****ls is to make babies and it’s just a happy coincidence that we can also experience pleasure during that process? What the f is that?! In general I’d say this person is pretty enlightened and progressive, but this hot take from him is just…..not it, I don’t think. Am I reading his messages through an inappropriately defensive lens? Also don’t come at me for being like “maybe you know more about this than I do”, it’s sarcasm.

Update - AIO for going no contact with my ex after she asked for no contact
So a little while after I made the last post, my (22M) long distance ex (21F) messaged me again, saying again how I was being avoidant because I wasn’t texting her after she initiated no contact, and apparently did her wrong by breaking up even though she was keeping her options open with other guys. I ended up just sending screenshots of her own messages previously saying to “never contact me again because I won’t be responding”, and basically just said that i’m over it atp.

She then for some reason tried to use google to explain how I never loved her and that breakups take months to move on from. Idk but me personally we’ve already broken up around 10 times and this time was long time coming, and also I just didn’t like how she treated me in the relationship in general so I genuinely got over it pretty quick even though I loved her a lot. AIO for not really responding?

Also she often uses therapy-speak language for some reason, maybe because she’s a 3rd year psychology student