Lexi Purbaugh

3 questions I ask at every single appointment. They’ve changed how I advocate for my dad, and for myself.

1. Don’t understand something? ASK. Don’t just nod along.
2. “Help me understand what this is for, and what it changes about my situation.”
3. “Who else should be involved in my care?” PT, speech, social work, nutrition, palliative care. So many people don’t know to ask.

I’m , a nurse of over 10 years including 11 in ER/ICU. I know this system on paper. Being a caregiver taught me the rest.

I’ve got 7 more questions every caregiver needs. Comment ASK and I’ll send the full list of 10.

You are not alone in this. Follow along as I share more. 🩷

I told my dad’s doctor that he wasn’t doing enough… and he got offended. Offending him was never the intention. I just needed him to hear me. We are currently navigating something that feels so scary and impossible, and I needed more support.

I’m Lexi | Mom Humor & Beauty and I’m a nurse. I’ve worked in healthcare for over half of my life. I’ve worked in ER/ICU critical care for 11 years. I know how to ask hard questions. I know how to navigate the healthcare system. But sitting in that chair, begging for more guidance, taught me something profound.

Most people don’t know how to ask the hard questions. Most people don’t feel safe pushing back when they need to.

I want to turn this heartache into something impactful. If you’re going through something that feels impossible, please know you’re not alone. I’ve got 10 questions that every caregiver should ask their loved one’s care team. Comment ASK and I’ll send them over.

Make sure to follow along as I share more about advocating for your health and learning how to ask the hard questions. 🩷

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I didn’t think I’d be the one asking these questions. 😭

For more than half of my life, I’ve been the nurse in the room. The one with the answers, the calm voice, the person other families looked to for reassurance.

Over the last 2 years, my role as a nurse has hit a personal level helping advocate for my dad. Suddenly, I was the one losing sleep before doctor’s appointments, rehearsing what to say, learning how to push back on the care team without burning the relationship we needed to keep.

Knowing the system from the inside didn’t make it easier. If anything, it made it harder, because I knew exactly how much falls through the cracks when nobody’s fighting for you.

I’ve thought about creating a space to share what I’ve learned. How to ask the right questions. How to push for more testing without sounding “difficult.” How to advocate for someone you love when you feel like you’re on the outside of a system you don’t understand.

So tell me honestly:

Is this something you’d want more of? And what’s been your biggest struggle advocating for yourself or someone you love in the healthcare setting? 🩷

*Disclaimer: I’m sharing what worked for my family, not medical advice.

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Around here, we’re growing our lashes, finding affordable products that actually work, laughing through the chaos, and attempting to feel hot again….even when someone has been yelling “MOM!” since 6:42am 😂

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