Love Me From Me

Someone can show you more love in 5 months than someone has in 5 years

I learned this lesson & I’m a better woman for it.

I met my boyfriend while traveling in North Carolina. I actually went there for work and had ZERO intentions of meeting anyone. I was honestly excited to travel and getaway.

The first day I met him, I couldn’t take my eyes off of him and I watched him the whole weekend.

I boss’d up and made the first move…I TALKED TO HIM (which is something I never do)

We exchanged numbers and he was actually flying back to NY that day.

Well, wouldn’t you know that he changed his flight to the next day, so we could spend time getting to know each other.

We stayed up all night talking and ate breakfast together the next morning. He took me to the airport and our connection GREW from there

Two weeks later, we made it official and two more weeks after that, he was relocating to Arkansas to be with little ole me.

We’ve since moved in together, he’s met my son and I’ve met his kids and we’re talking about getting married

ALL in 5 months y’all

It blows my mind every day TBH.

For years I begged someone for this and more and I found it on a whim, when I wasn’t even looking for it

The moral of the story is that you can’t be afraid to take a chance on love and when it comes, just make sure that you’re ready for it

Drop a

Take the Loss Now Sis & Choose YOURSELF

I was in a situationship for 10+ years before I made the decision to “move around”.

I know you’re reading this thinking…damn did she just say 10 years

YES I DID & NO I’m not bragging

But here is what I learned from those 10 years…..

I learned that you can’t be afraid to LOSE right now.

For a LONG time I sought to have a conversation with him about what our relationship status was and what he saw for us in the future…and had ZERO success

He ended up dealing with other women and lying about it…but at the end of the day, who do I have to blame?

The answer: myself

When he couldn’t hold a basic conversation with me about our future or what he wanted from our dealing with each other, that should have been the point where I moved on.

But NOOO…I stayed to “gain more clarity” and continued to confuse myself.

I should have taken the answer that was given to me, directly or indirectly, and moved on with my life.

So this message is for any woman who wants to know should she keep it pushing or stay and work it out

My answer: do what’s best for you sis!!

Tell me what you think below

If you could travel ANYWHERE right now, where would it be?

I want to do more traveling in 2022….drop some of your fav places to visit and tell us why (below)

One of my FAVORITE places to visit is Las Vegas. I’ve been there like 5 or 6 times and it NEVER gets old.

The strip is SOOO mesmerizing and such a sight to see.

Plus, I know how to conquer Vegas on a budget

Have you ever sat back and appreciated your growth?

When those FB memories pop up from years ago, all I can say is Thank God for Growth (LOL)

Not only have I grown physically, but also mentally.

My growth has enabled me to understand how I have contributed to situations I’ve been a part of to better understand how I got to where I am today.

Furthermore, I appreciate this growth because I wouldn’t be the person I am today..without them.

What have you gone through and what ESSENTIAL life lessons did it teach you?

Are you thankful for that experience or no?

I stopped with the New Year’s resolutions a LONG time ago—and decided to take charge of my life on a daily basis!

You don’t have to wait until the New Year to make changes …

You are ALWAYS in control

What goals have you set for 2022?

For years, my friend advised me to see a psychiatrist and she told me that I had ADHD.

I denied it for so long and coincidentally didn’t follow up.

A year after my father passed away, things began to hit me like a ton of bricks….

It became harder to focus and my short term memory was affected, my moods were fluctuating like CRAZY, my patience would disappear at the drop of a dime and I had moments where I would act impulsively

Funny enough, these things had been going on for years….but I never noticed.

When I finally took my friend’s advice, I visited a psychiatrist who immediately diagnosed me with ADHD and gave me medicine.

When I took that medicine, my life changed…for the better

I was more calm, my anxiety seemed to fade away, things didn’t bother me so much.

The BEST thing I’ve done in a long time was to receive the diagnosis of ADHD and it is severely under diagnosed in adults.

Whether you’re dealing with ADHD, Depression or Anxiety…it’s important to focus on your mental health!

Without your mental health, nothing else matters

HAPPY NEW YEAR'S DAY!!

Happy New Years Eve

Just Remember that the BEST is YET to come

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4 ways to identify if you’re in a toxic relationship

Trust me sis….we’ve ALL been there

Whether it’s that situationship you haven’t been able to get rid of or that relationship that you know is WAYYY past its expiration date….

Toxicity is EASY to see from the outside looking in, but when you’re in the midst of it…it becomes your new normal

I went through a KNOWINGLY toxic relationship for 10+ years and straight up justified it, so I’d like to share 3 ways to know you have a toxic relationship

You cry more than you’re happy

No man is perfect and trust me, they’ll all get on your nerves at some point in the relationship. But if you find yourself crying or unhappy more than you find yourself happy and smiling with him, that might mean this situation is not serving you

You can’t trust him

One of the most valuable lessons I learned is that you shouldn’t be with someone you can’t trust. If you have to look through his phone or social media and question the trust on what he tells you, then he ISN’T the one for you sis

You feel like you have to force him

Since finding a man that loves and appreciates me for me, I’ve also realized that you don’t have to force a GOOD man that wants the same thing you want. If you have to force conversations about commitment and building a life together, then that’s not the wavelength he’s on. The best thing to do is to cut your losses and move on and find yourself again

Constant disrespect

I dealt with a person who found it normal to lie to me and raise his voice at me. In essence, he had ZERO respect for me and that should have been a big enough red flag for me to keep it pushing. Men will never belittle or disrespect something or someone they care about.

Do you have any to add to this list? What have you learned from your past relationships?

Who watched insecure?

I can’t believe it’s OVER

When I tell y’all that was my SHOW! It related to me in SOO many ways

5 seasons of pure AWESOMENESS

What were your thoughts on the finale?