Norah Finn Therapy

THERAPY is not just another appointment. It is a space prepared just for you💜

I haven’t chatted with you in a while. I hope you’re all keeping well and enjoying that beautiful weather.

Therapy works. It’s a journey home to self. I’m so grateful to the people I’ve journeyed with through the years of my practice. They have grown, I have grown, that’s what therapy is all about.

If you are looking for professional support in your life, reach out. It’s good to talk.

I also work as a clinical supervisor, so if you are looking for clinical support, please feel free to pick up the phone.

I wish you all a lovely day,
Norah 💜

There is not one of us that can afford to judge another. If your focus is on how others personally behave, that’s avoidance of self. When you have a life, you don’t have the time to judge another. You’re too busy living your life to the fullest. Cheering people on. Encouraging them in their persuits. Moral superiority is a shaky pedestal to sit on. You’re gonna get hurt when you fall off.

What is the company you keep like? Do you laugh, have fun, share kindly, or do you engage in the doom and gloom of talking about how other people behave badly? Do you believe you would do it so much better?

Step back and observe your company. How are they behaving? Do you like what you see? They are showing you who you are!

Therapy is about you becoming responsible for your life. You are responsible for the energy you bring to a place. Do you light it up? Or do you judge away any goodness? The choice is yours.

Do not give the credit for your journey to anyone else.

You built yourself back up. You found your way through dark days. You got up every morning and did what you needed to do to survive. Those choices, those efforts, and that resilience came from you.

Others may have encouraged you, believed in you, or walked beside you - and that matters. Good friends, family, mentors, and professionals can make a difference. But they did not walk your path for you. They stood beside you while you did the hard work of healing, growing, and rebuilding your life. Those people are worth holding onto.

Gratitude is a beautiful thing. Feeling thankful for the people who supported you is natural. But gratitude should never become a debt that you feel you must keep repaying.

If someone expects recognition, or implies they deserve ownership of your progress, especially if you paid for a service, it may be worth reflecting on whether the relationship has become unhealthy.

Healthy support fosters equality, and empowers people to stand on their own rather than be indebted.

At the end of the day, the only person who made the difficult decisions, endured the setbacks, kept going when it would have been easier to stop, and continued moving forward was YOU.

So remember to give yourself the credit you’ve earned.

The one person who deserves your deepest appreciation for your journey is the person who lived it.

YOU!

Do you show yourself the same appreciation that you so readily give to everyone else?

Therapy supports you to support yourself. You have your answers. All you need is someone to sit with you while you find your way. 💜

A “STOP” list can be just as useful as a “to-do” list because it defines what you won’t spend your time and energy on.

• Stop saying yes out of guilt.
• Stop checking email or messages the moment they arrive.
• Stop trying to perfect work that is already good enough.
• Stop comparing your progress to other people’s.
• Stop carrying tasks that belong to someone else.
• Stop multitasking when one thing deserves your full attention.
• Stop apologizing for things that don’t require an apology.
• Stop buying things to solve temporary emotions.
• Stop postponing difficult conversations.
• Stop assuming you have to be available 24/7.
• Stop reopening decisions you’ve already made.
• Stop letting small interruptions dictate your day.
• Stop waiting until you’re “ready” before starting.
• Stop treating rest as something that has to be earned.
• Stop measuring your worth by your productivity.

If it’s not aligned with the person I’m trying to become, it goes on the STOP list before it goes on the TO-DO list.

A STOP list isn’t about doing less for the sake of it. It’s about creating space for the things that matter most.

Sometimes deciding what not to do has the biggest impact on your personal freedom and empowerment 💜

3 TRAITS OF THE NARCISSIST THAT WE CANNOT IGNORE 💜
Apathy is the opposite of empathy. It is the inability to consider the emotional state of another. Be concerned if you see this trait in someone. It could be a symptom of an undiagnosed mental health disorder. People who are well don’t behave with apathy toward others.

The mask drops when the narcissist isn’t getting what they want. They feel entitled to get what they want and hard done by and victimized if for whatever reason you are unable/unwilling to give it to them.

Life happens. Situations change. But to someone with narcissistic behaviors they will feel offended and victimized and will go on the attack if you withhold anything from them.

They view a “no” through a grandiose lens. How dare you say no to them. Do you not know who they are? In their world, consequences and accountability does not apply to them.

A lack of empathy, entitlement, and grandiosity - 3 very alarming traits. They are the traits of a narcissist.

You don’t see these traits in someone at the early stages of a relationship. It’s when you can’t give them what they expect/demand to be given that you’ll start to see the traits appear. My only advice when you see these traits is - RUN!

RUN as fast as you can. Do not look backwards. No contact is your safety net.

Put it down to a lucky escape. You’re not stupid for not seeing this, you were conned. You believed you were interacting with a reasonable human.

Therapy supports us if you have suffered narcissistic abuse. The scars are internal. You need to be heard and seen and valued again for the wonderful soul that you are. 💜

HAPPY FRIDAY - I wish you a weekend ahead where you allow nothing, or nobody, to steal your inner peace. Have a great one 💜