Lacey Draper Life Alignment Coaching

I watched these little guys rolling around in the dirt yesterday and learned this is actually how some birds clean themselves.

And of course, me being me, I have to apply deeper meaning to it 🙃

"Sometimes getting clean requires getting dirty."

And life is a lot like that. Sometimes you have to get into the messy parts. The stuff you’ve avoided, the things that aren’t working, the parts of yourself you’re still trying to understand.

It’s not always pretty or profound. Sometimes you’re just in the dirt figuring s**t out.

And maybe that’s exactly where you need to be.

I’m always finding little life lessons in random things like this. 😂 But I really think they’re everywhere. If you slow down long enough to actually notice what’s happening around you and think about it for a minute, there’s so much to learn from the world around us.

Even of it's just a bunch of cute birds rolling around in the dirt. 🌿🐦

You haven’t met every version of yourself yet. 🦋

There are things you’re going to love that you haven’t discovered yet. Places you haven’t been. People who will change you. Things you’ll try and realize you’re actually really fu***ng good at. Dreams you don’t even know you have yet.

We put so much pressure on ourselves to “figure out who we are,” like at some point we’re supposed to arrive at a finished version of ourselves.

But I don’t think we ever do.

We change. We get curious. We experience things. We change our minds. We outgrow things we once thought we wanted and find ourselves drawn to things we never expected.

I think that’s one of the best parts of being alive.

You don’t have to have yourself completely figured out.

There are still so many versions of you left to meet. 🦋

We tend to think bravery is the big leap into whatever comes next. Sometimes i think the braver part happens before that, when you finally loosen your grip on something you worked really hard to hold onto....

You're allowed to outgrow something you once prayed for.

Women are really good at pouring into everyone else.

Our kids, our partners, our friendships, our jobs, our families. We remember the birthdays. We check in. We anticipate what everyone needs. We keep it all moving. We make sure everyone is okay.

And somewhere along the way, a lot of us learned that this is what makes us a good woman.

A good woman gives. A good mom sacrifices. A good partner compromises. A good friend shows up.

But then you start asking, “Okay… but what do *I* want?”

And suddenly we have all these other words for women.

Selfish. Difficult. Cold. Ungrateful. A bitch.

And I think we need to question that.

There's a huge difference between loving people and giving to them because you genuinely want to… and building your whole identity around how useful you can be to everybody else.

How much of what you give is actually coming from love?

And how much of it is because you're scared of what people will think of you if you stop?

And maybe receiving isn't just accepting a compliment or letting someone do something nice for you.

Maybe it's letting yourself have time that's just yours.

Letting somebody else handle it.

Saying no without sending a five-paragraph explanation afterward.

Gifting yourself something just because you want it.

Building a life where you're actually one of the people being considered, too.

So really think about it…

Are you comfortable receiving?

Or have you just gotten really, really good at pouring?

Awareness is where growth begins. Slow down, look closer, and trust that even the smallest moments are shaping who you're becoming. 🌿🦋 Butterfly Season