Mystic Shadowz Spiritual Coach

Most people think they're over-explaining because they communicate too much.

Sometimes they're over-explaining because they're terrified of being misunderstood.

Terrified of conflict.
Terrified of disappointing someone.
Terrified of being seen as the bad guy.
Terrified of being abandoned.

So they keep talking.
Keep clarifying.
Keep defending.
Keep trying to make sure everyone understands their intentions.

Not because they're manipulative.

Because somewhere along the way, their nervous system learned:

"If people misunderstand me, I might lose connection."

If this hit a little too close to home, you're not alone.

The goal isn't to become someone who never explains themselves.

The goal is learning when you're communicating... and when you're trying to earn safety.

If you're tired of knowing what to do but still getting pulled into the same emotional patterns, check out The Alchemy Shift. Link in bio.

Some of you call it kindness…

but your nervous system calls it survival.

A lot of people don’t realize they’re people pleasing because it doesn’t FEEL manipulative when you’re the one doing it.

It feels like:
keeping the peace
being understanding
avoiding conflict
making sure everyone’s okay
trying not to disappoint people

But underneath that?

A lot of the time there’s fear.

Because somewhere along the way your body learned:
being liked was safer than being honest.

And when you constantly override your own feelings, boundaries, needs, and discomfort to maintain emotional safety…

your nervous system notices.

That’s what this episode of Alchemy of Self is about.

Not becoming selfish.

Becoming conscious enough to notice when you’re abandoning yourself just to avoid discomfort, rejection, guilt, or disconnection.

Because the goal isn’t just to understand the pattern.

It’s to become someone who no longer needs it to survive.

That’s the alchemy.

I went deeper into the nervous system side of this pattern inside the group today too…

especially the part about what’s actually happening internally in “The Moment Before” you abandon yourself.

Because most people don’t even realize the pattern is activating until afterward.

That deeper awareness changes everything. Come join us 595624496969678:69:Mystic Power Alchemizing Trauma To Empowerment

Part 12

One of the most frustrating feelings in the world is knowing exactly what you should do… and still reacting completely differently in the moment.

A lot of emotionally intelligent people secretly carry shame around that.

But survival patterns don’t disappear just because you became self-aware.

If this hit home, you’ll probably relate to a lot of this page 🖤

Comment “seen” if this feels a little too accurate.

One thing I really respect is when someone creates something that actually helps people come back to themselves instead of just escaping themselves.

My friend Avery Goodman wrote a book called Feel Good Now and honestly I think a lot of people need this kind of reminder right now.

Not “wait until everything is perfect.”
Not “wait until life slows down.”
Not “maybe someday.”

Now.

Especially for the people who have spent so long stuck in stress, survival mode, overthinking, burnout, or constantly chasing the next thing thinking THEN they’ll finally feel okay.

Sometimes we get so disconnected from ourselves that we forget feeling good is even allowed.

I am actually hoping to start giving this book as a gift to clients in the future when they sign up for my program, because it's very simple and practical and stuff you can start doing to Feel Good RIGHT Now

Proud of you Avery 🖤 definitely go check it out if you’ve been needing a reset mentally, emotionally, or energetically. Drop Feel Good below if you want the link!

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One of the most painful experiences is watching yourself become a version of yourself you thought you already outgrew.

Especially when part of you KNOWS better now.

That’s what this episode of Alchemy of Self is about.

The difference between: who you consciously want to be…
and who your nervous system becomes under pressure.

Because awareness alone doesn’t automatically deactivate survival conditioning.

And a lot of people are secretly using their emotional reactions as proof they haven’t changed…
instead of seeing them as information about where healing still needs support.

Some people don’t shut down during conflict because they don’t care.

They shut down because somewhere along the way their body learned conflict wasn’t emotionally safe.

And that creates a kind of shame most people don’t talk about.

Because externally it looks like:
silence
distance
avoidance
disconnection

…but internally?

A lot of people are overwhelmed as hell.

Their chest tightens.
Their mind goes blank.
Their body wants to escape.
They can FEEL themselves disappearing in real time.

And afterward they sit there wondering:
“Why couldn’t I just communicate normally?”

That’s what this episode of Alchemy of Self is about.

The difference between:
not caring…

and a nervous system that learned emotional conflict equals danger.

Because awareness alone doesn’t automatically stop survival responses.

And a lot of emotionally intelligent people are secretly carrying shame for patterns their body still thinks are protecting them.

That’s the alchemy.

Did conflict feel emotionally safe in your house growing up?”

I used to think “leveling up” was just mindset.

Think better.
Do better.
Be more disciplined.

But honestly… I’ve realized a huge part of it is what you allow yourself to live inside of.

Your environment affects your energy.
Your nervous system.
Your identity.

For me, preparing my space matters.

My crystals.
My dried flowers.
My little pockets of peace and power.
Even my Fennekin sitting with my crystals bringing the “bad ass fox energy” 😂🦊
Because to me that energy means, adaptable. intuitive. resilient. clever. powerful.

Not because aesthetics magically fix your life…

…but because embodiment matters.

The way you care for yourself.
The way you set up your environment.
The way you allow yourself to experience your life…
all of it communicates something to your mind and body.

For me, this is part of building capacity.

Capacity to receive more.
Capacity to hold peace.
Capacity to feel safe enough to expand.
Capacity to embody the version of me I’m actually excited to be.

You can feel when a space reflects survival mode…
and you can feel when it reflects intention too.

And sometimes healing looks less like “fixing yourself”
and more like finally creating a life your nervous system actually wants to exist in. ✨

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To the moms trying not to lose themselves while raising everyone else…

I see you.

The moms carrying the mental load.
The overstimulation.
The guilt.
The pressure.
The constant feeling that everyone needs something from you.

The moms trying to heal…
while still actively parenting.

Trying to regulate…
while teaching little humans how to regulate too.

Trying not to repeat patterns… while life is actively testing you every day.

That’s heavy.

And honestly?
Not enough people talk about how hard it can be to hold everyone else together while quietly falling apart inside yourself.

So today isn’t just about celebrating what you DO.

It’s about recognizing who you are underneath survival mode, underneath exhaustion, underneath constantly giving to everyone else.

You matter too.

Not just as a mom.
As a person.

And if nobody’s told you lately…

You’re probably doing far better than you think you are 🤍

So today, show yourself a little love too.

Even if it’s something small.

A quiet moment.
A deep breath.
A coffee in silence.

A candlelit bath with flowers in the tub like I love to do 🌙
You deserve softness too.

Happy Mother's Day

Stop trying to “figure it out” in the moment.

That’s why you keep reacting the same way.

You don’t need more information…
you need something that helps you shift while it’s happening

That’s what these are.
Each blend is designed for a real-life moment:
→ when your mind won’t stop
→ when your energy feels off
→ when you need to show up differently

This isn’t about oils.
It’s about control, awareness, and who you become in those moments.

✨ Which one would YOU reach for?

Tomorrow is Beltane…
and most people are going to treat it like a vibe instead of a turning point.

Let’s be real
You don’t need another ritual you feel good doing…

You need something that actually moves your life forward.

Beltane is about activation.
Creation.
Momentum.

It’s the moment where you stop sitting in “I want this”
…and decide “I’m stepping into this.”

So here’s what I want you to do:
🔥 Choose ONE thing you’re ready for
🔥 Write it like a decision, not a wish
🔥 Light a candle and say it out loud
🔥 Then take ONE action within 24 hours

That’s how you use the energy.

Not by thinking about it…
By moving with it.

If you do this, I want to hear what you choose

And if you’re tired of starting things and not following through this is literally the work I help people with.